What is a Submissive?

Dominance and submission is about a power exchange between two consenting adults. It is about the control within the dynamics of that relationship, whether it be a full time 24/7 relationship, or a casual meeting, or a part time arrangement.

Choosing to be submissive means to allow someone else to control your body and behaviour within the preset limits you and that particular person, ie the Dominant, have agreed upon.

Submission is not a sign of weakness, some of the most successful and strongest people are true submissives.

Submission is not about passiveness, it is not about being a doormat - most submissives are intelligent and well balanced people just fulfilling their basic desires to submit and to give up control.

Submission is not about kinky sex and whips and chains – though those things can and do play a part in our lifestyle, it is much deeper than just that, and comes from the heart.

Submission is a choice, and a wonderful gift to the Dominant – it should never be entered into lightly, even in a casual situation at a party or gathering.

The sexual submissive is also sometimes described as the immediate submissive, and her (his) need is filled by the consequences of her (his) submission, in other words the sexual satisfaction or gratification she (he) feels from submitting to a Dominant. Sometimes it can be a release from guilty feelings that she (he)likes these activities, sometimes she (he) just simply craves the endorphin rush and once it has passed, she (he) feels no need to continue to be submissive.